Still waters run deep…
Todays post has been inspired by two things I read earlier this week, it’s a little bit personal but here goes…
I’ve got a bit of a reputation for being a hard faced bitch, or so I’ve been told. Being employed in sales doesn’t help, what’s the worlds problem with sales people? What, are we not allowed to make a living too? Believe me, if I was any good at brain surgery I would have chosen that for a career. The fact is I’m not that academically smart. Anyway, I digress.
I wanted to write a post that shows a different side to me. One that I hope will let my audience see that my desire to make money and build a substantial and solid future for myself isn’t about being selfish and uncaring, it is not my intention to falsely lure people into something they don’t want for my own gain. It is my intention to build a stable future for myself, alongside anyone else who shares my vision and wants to join me and embark on their own path to financial freedom.
The only person in this world who can provide for me is me. It is likely that the same applies to a lot of you. I have been lucky enough to find a solution that offers me a stable and wealthy future, so why would I not want to shout about it?
You see it is important to me that I maintain and continue to build on my independence and not seek stability from an unstable source. i.e. someone else… And by someone else, I mean a family member, friend, partner and/or an employer. Life comes with no guarantees, so we must do the best we can to secure a stable future independently.
I’m going to write about something I don’t often talk about, and that’s my parents. Without them I wouldn’t be here ready and fully equipped to embark on this remarkable journey.
I think it’s fair to say I’ve been unlucky with parents. Mine divorced when I was a teenager, as a result I didn’t see my dad for years, in fact I didn’t even speak to him until October 28th 2005, the day my mum died.
The most remarkable woman I’ve ever known was taken away from me at a moments notice. That’s a very difficult thing to get your head around at just 20 years old. I was in my last year of uni, and still very much financially dependent on her. She too was dependent on me, physically and verbally.
She had a stroke 17 years prior to her death that left her partially paralysed and had huge implications on her mobility and speech. Despite that she did everything she could to keep me. And where most people would have given up hope, my remarkable mother always found the strength to carry on, she would laugh, joke, smile and do everything she could for the people she cared about. It is the strength I witnessed in her that has inspired the woman I am today.
Losing my mum was a life changing experience. Suddenly I found myself with no option but to fend for myself.
The last 8 years have taught me a lot; it is our life’s experiences that shape who we become. I’ve had my ups and downs; grief makes you do all kinds of things that would normally be out of character, some that are far from helpful, and others that have the potential to have long term consequences. But I came through. You never truly get over losing a parent, but it does get easier to deal with.
So when my dad died in 2011 I half knew what to expect. Though I must say what I didn’t expect was the realisation that the only thing worse than losing a parent is getting your head around having lost both parents by the age of 26. How is that fair?! I have friends in their 50’s who still take their parents shopping and I lost the chance to do that in my 20’s. Well fuck you too world!
A lot of my friends are independent, but the fact remains when life throws difficulty at them, physically, mentally, emotionally, or financially, the majority of them have a parent to fall back on for reassurance. I don’t have that luxury, and that’s a difficult thing to get your head around at such a young age.
I have now, it took some time, and Pinot, but now I know that whilst my parents aren’t here to support me in person, they did a fantastic job of raising a competent, brave and ambitious woman who is perfectly capable of depending on herself.
I have a very good friend who has been great support to me in the short time I have known her. Very early on in our friendship, around the time my dad died, she told me that she thought I was very emotionally intelligent. If I’m honest at the time I wasn’t really sure what she meant.
I later learnt that emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, assess and control your emotions, as well as being able to understand, interpret and respond to the emotions of others.
What an interesting observation to make, no one had ever made such an observation about me before. That said I’ve never had a friend who’s a mental health nurse before she came along. I would say damn that bitch for psychoanalysing me, but actually she made a lot of sense.
Whilst I knew this was a compliment, what I didn’t know was that emotional intelligence was a far more valuable quality than originally anticipated.
Emotional intelligence is a key quality of successful big business owners.
I’ve written in previous posts about one of my favourite teachers/authors Robert Kiyosaki. He writes a financial education blog and I came across this post that made for very reassuring and interesting reading, in fact, it is this that has inspired today’s post from me.
Just because I can assess and control my emotions, prior to expressing them, it doesn’t make me a heartless bitch who wants to exploit other people. It just means that life has dealt me some cards that have made it necessary for me to manage my emotions.
It goes without saying that I would give up everything I own for just one moment with my parents. But life doesn’t work like that, and I know that my parents would want the show to go on.
So I thank them for making me the woman I am today, and I will go forward and continue my journey to financial freedom with emotional intelligence on my side. As Robert says, ’emotional intelligence is the key to success.’
Are you able to manage your emotions? Does fear stop you from going after what you want? Do you find yourself ‘playing it safe’ though fear of failure or fear of losing money?
Not only am I lucky enough to already have this quality, I am also lucky enough to work with a dynamic group of successful people who invest a lot of time in helping people obtain this quality and overcome their fears. I have witnessed first-hand how this has resulted in substantial boosts in people’s confidence, and offered long term earning potential for an eclectic group of people around the world.
If you want to know more about this life changing opportunity click here.
If you remain sceptical keep an eye on my future blog posts where I will be sharing with you all my experiences as a young woman building big business independently and worldwide.
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